Dealing with concerns is something we all face. All the concerns we experience are cumulative. All these things are piling up, so you can add them together. Often this complex of worries forms a basis for stress. Problems can have a paralyzing effect, as a result of which there are no initiatives to do anything about it. Let alone to do something about it efficiently.

    In the first instance, it is good to analyse what kind of problems we are dealing with. There are three main categories. First of all, there are those concerns that you can't do anything about; problems that are beyond your control. A clear example is when someone dies in the family. This can be an overwhelming problem, a problem you can't do anything about. Of course, you can do something about the way you deal with this. That is true, but not about the problem itself.

    Then there are problems that are within your sphere of influence, but where you are dependent on someone else to do something about it effectively. For example, a quarrel with the neighbors. You can do something about this, but you are limited in a certain way by the attitude of the neighbors themselves; you are dependent on the neighbors whether they themselves are willing to communicate positively or not.


    But with another kind of problem, you are the main actor yourself. Here we can focus on the roots of the problem. These things deserve our greatest attention. An example. Maybe we tend to postpone things and we regularly get late, with our payments, on an appointment, with the completion of our task. This, of course, can cause tension with others. The cause should not be found in others, but in ourselves. Perhaps the reshuffling of our weekly priorities can help us to actually address these concerns. When we have clearly defined our priorities and then finish them first, we will come on time. This can have a major impact on our stress. Focusing on priorities that I can do something about is also necessary for me to be able to deal with stress properly.